◎ contents 1. introduction : the story behind this book 2. why? : a description of the symptoms of the illnesses most often associated with suicide 3. what about shame and guilt? : all the reasons you need not blame yourself for the tragedy 4. how long does the pain last? : typical patterns described by Dr.Veninga's research 5. what helps? : specific suggestions from those who have been there 6. how do you deal with others? 7. what about holidays? 8. how can suicide affect you? 9. advice from other survivors 10. conclusion